list of things NOT to do or TO do as a swapee....

a list of things to DO as a swapee.....

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1. open the package ASAP

2. take pics if you can...and lots of them!

3. PM, or message, your spoiler/swap partner to let them know personally that you received your package

4. thank them

5. thank them on the 'thread' if there is one

6. celebrate the goody goodness

anymore anyone? message me & I will add them!

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a list of things NOT to do as a swapee

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1. do not continuously post how badly you want your package to the point it's in every thread

2. do not forget to thank your spoiler/swap partner...they worked hard to put together your package!

3. do not send PM's (messages) complaining about what you received...it always gets back to your spoiler/swap partner

4. do not complain about how your kid was sent something but it wasn't

about them in this swap.

5. do not threaten to PM the mod in charge simply because you didn't like something in that huge box of stuff that you received.

6. do NOT put the yarn that was hand-dyed on your 'gifted/to be traded' stash......someone always points it out to the spoiler/swap partner...and it's especially tacky when it's still an active swap!

7. do not PM your spoilee/swap partner in an effort to try & swap the yarn you got in the swap with yarn your spoiler/swap partner has on hand..especially if you neglected to send a 'thank you' PM to them. That is truly tacky!

any more anyone? message me & I will add them!

a swap is a swap is a swap

if you've looked around my blog at all, you may have noticed that I was apart of a Swap on a Budget ($20), and you may have noticed all the pictures of what I sent her & her wee one....it was so fun to put together the package, make all the goodies & I loved putting all the yuummies in there....I admit it...I thought with all the kitty things I included (she mentioned she loved cats) that I had sent a pretty good package. This was my first swap, and I thought that she would like it.....and that her wee one would be excited to get the goodies I sent to him. I just love the kiddos & her wee one was sooooooooo cute I had to send him things too!

I have also mentioned that I am just almost 100% sure she didn't like my package. I won't say how I know, or why I think that.....but just know it's a pretty sure thing.

being OCD like I am this has really shocked me to the core. I have had moments of being in tears because I think I've disappointed someone.....eventhough it was only a $20 swap, I wanted the person that I swapped with to like what I sent her. I included things I thought she would like, and apparently I didn't know what she would like.....she has already requested something be made for her that I didn't include......

I know that everyone is raised differently, but I never knew that someone could treat someone else so coldly about a swap. Had I known my package would be received so coldly, not even a thank you PM from her or a thank you from the wee one, I probably wouldn't have swapped. I know that it's not about getting the thank you, but I have always been raised that if someone does something thoughtful for you, someone takes the time to do for you that you at the very least send a 'thank you' directly to them. Maybe I'm behind the times & people no longer do that...I am almost 39, so perhaps I'm from an old generation & common courtesy has gone the way of the dinosaur and people no longer do that...I don't know. I just know I'm hurt, and a little sad that my first swap like this ever has gone this way.

to my spoilee:

I am sooooooo sorry that I somehow let you down with what all I sent to you. In all honesty, I thought you'd love all that yarn, and all those goodies I sent to you, and I thought your wee one would be so tickled to get some things too. I'm so sorry that I somehow missed what you wanted, and the type of person that you are. I wish that I could somehow make it up to you.....I really don't know how I could because I went so FAR above the $20 guideline that I can't send you more to try & make you happy.

I have had COUNTLESS people tell me that what I sent was indeed okay, but I can't help but have those moments that I wonder if I sent a second class package....but then I look at those pics that I took of the package & I see that I tried....and in all honesty I'd be tickled to death to get that stuff, and if someone had thought of my children I would be over the moon....I guess that is moot point when it comes to getting involved in a swap, doesn't it?

I don't know you in real life, as you do not know me....perhaps this is a good opportunity for us both to learn something from this experience, take something from it. I know that I have learned a lot........I won't put verbs to it, but anyone that was involved in this knows what jewels could have been gleened from this experience for me.

I have started to PM you multiple times to apologize if I let you down, but haven't......for so many reasons, one of them being there is no way for me to make this right.....you were expecting something else I supposse & I've let you down by not delivering....and I'm truly, truly, truly sorry that you obviously didn't enjoy the package that I worked SO hard to put together...it makes me so sad. I don't have the words to tell you how much it hurts to put something together that you are proud to send out and then have such a cold reception (which includes complaints to others about the package)....it just plain hurts. I truly wish that I could make things better, but I honestly can offer only I'M SORRY! and the promise that you will not ever have to wonder about getting a swap from me again, I will make sure to not...I don't want to let you down again.

I may not do another swap.....period. I just take it too personal when someone doesn't like it......I've never had anything like this happen, and I don't know how to rationalize this persons behavior, and I certainly don't know how to wear the "I don't care...I did my best" hat...I wish I could be more callus about it, but I don't know how.



I hate that I let my spoilee down. I don't know why you didn't like my package, or what I could have done to make it better for you.....I am soooo sorry.






EDITED TO ADD:


the yarn that I saved money to buy, spent the money to get the stuff to dye it, spent the time to dye the yarn......is already either traded, or to be traded. I have never been so hurt in my entire life over something like this.

she PM'd me wanting to trade 2 of the skeins of yarn (the DK) that I sent her for some other yarn I had in my stash. THEN she PM'd me again *acting* all confused. I took this opportunity to let her know to not PM me again. I want nothing more to do with her, and will not EVER swap with her again.

she has the 3 skeins of Debbie Bliss yarn that I dyed for her, the 2 skeins of DK that I dyed for her on her trade/sell/sold page. She even told the mod that I only sent a partial skein (so I was told). The mods have handled the situation and eventhough it pains me that my stuff that I made/sent wasn't good enough for this person, I consider the case closed.

I left the LHOTP swap & told them I was not going to participate. I am too afraid to swap after this foul of a swap.

the package to my spoilee arrived!

^^^kitty pin cushion!!!^^^

this is what was in my swap on a budget ($20) swap

this is what I sent to Dena

included in the package (in no certain order)
coloring book for the wee one, odds and ends holder, kitty shaped pin cushion, 6 skeins of yarn (3 of them handdyed by me), needle roll, Christmas card, Narnia CD for the wee one, needle point (Christmas) for the wee one, what I think ended up being 3 patterns? may have been 2, 2 recipes, Christmas ball, Disney glass with hand placed designs with 2 napkins, kool-aid & jello for dying the only undyed yarn (the misti alpaca lace), pencils and erasers for the wee one, tea and coco (for the wee one), hand sewn/kitty decorated wine (whatever) bag, lavender spritz, kitty bobble head doll, box of tea, and packs of cookies
I hope you liked it all!!!

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

your package has left B'ham! YIPEEEEEEEEEE!!!

when will it arrive at your door?!!!!!!!

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

I mailed!!!!!!!! I mailed!!!!!!!! I mailed!!!!!!!

I know it doesn't have to be "in your hands" until December 5th, but I went ahead & mailed!!!!

your confirmation # is

0307 1790 0002 6632 5322

buuuu ha ha!

but you won't know UNTIL it gets there that it's coming!!!!!!!!!

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

dear spoilee

Your box of goodies are in my van...it's been there since Tuesday.........(I was going to try & mail it then, but silly me I forgot the PO was closed...LOL LOL LOL)

I don't know if you are waiting excitedly for the package....or if you've forgotten you are in this swap........I hope you like the goodies I'm sending either way.

I'm kinda nervous after seeing all the other packages that have been received! They are awesome! This is my first swap of this type & I hope I'm doing it right.

I pray that I'm able to send it out Friday, and that you have it a few days after that....I am getting excited!

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

what in the world could that be??????

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

Hiya!

don't fret, your box is coming right along! :-) I have it just about finished.....I'm not going to send it off yet, because I want to torture errr I mean make sure I have your box just right before sending it off to you! I have until December 5th to make sure you have it opened already (that's the get to you date, not the mail to you by date), so I'm figuring a good month wait......should I make you wait that long?

I can't believe some have already sent off! They are busy bee's for sure! I have one more project I want to knit for you before sending it off, because I 'heard' you like this ________ and I want to try to ______it into the box before mailing it to you.

I won't make you wait until the very end......or will I???????? Am I that kind of spoiler??? To make you wait?

you haven't really posted at all on Raverly.....have you forgotten you signed up for this swap? Or do you not have a computer at home so you can't post so I can know you better?

I'm looking forward to sending off your goodies...I hope you like them!

dear spoilee (your daily dose of teasing)

A picture of your prezzies has been replaced with this picture you see above........purely just to taunt you!

It was good to see you FINALLY FINALLY FINALLY post!! :-) I want to know more about you so that I can make sure to send out goodies to you that you will like!

I have never been to your part of the world, so I'd love to know what's going on weather wise there too! :-) IF you can happen to mention it in one of your posts that would be great!!

I have decided to call this snapshot "ode to spoilee shutters" because just imagine if there were actual pictures of your take here you'd be so happy, you might just giggle??!! Oh, I hope so!!

what's that on my hands?????? Is it from something that I dyed with my own 2 hands just for you??? Oh my my my!!!!!!

do I go ahead & send it......or make the wait worth the while by not mailing until next month? OHHHH the decisions, decisions, decisions!! What to do!!!!!!!!!

dear spoilee

I have been busy at it for your prezzie box & it has 9 items in it!!! Including 5 ______'s of yummy ______!!!!!!!! I know...I know it wasn't expected to be that many, but I had to!!!!!! You deserve yummy ________!!!!!!

I just wish you'd post.....somewhere! Where oh' where have you been? Oh POST so that I can get to know you!!!

dear spoilee

I am here posting this merely to tease you....

what in the world could this be?????

ohhh my!!!!!!!!!!! Don't you want to know??????

buuu ha ha you have to wait......nannnahhheerrr!!!

to my spoilee:

I found out your favorite color!!!!!!!!!!

I was _________ some beautiful __________ to your favorite color, _________.

I dropped the _______, and guess what happened? __________ tangled! It was so sad and funny all at the same time.......I wish you had been here so we could have giggled together! :)

I can't wait to mail your package out to you.....I know you've had not the best of years this year (and who really has?) and I want to make you happy :) I hope you like what I'm putting together for you :)

I know that you have children, I so wish I knew their ages, and genders so that I could *maybe* include something small for them.......

I wish I knew more about you! I hope that you post more so that I can get to know more about you so I can make your prezzies all perfect for you!